We all want to feel connected, to feel needed and to feel loved.
To feel connected with others (your partner, family and friends) helps us feel that we belong. Connection for me, means that I can be myself (without fear of judgement from those around me) and be accepted for who I am. This also works in the reverse.
Without this connection it is easy to feel lonely and isolated.
Ironically, I am on social media a lot but still feel less connected in the ‘real world’. This of course, is entirely my own doing. Over the years with the increasing amount of time spent in connecting online, the less focus I have given to my real face to face connections.
Have you ever noticed that you may want a really strong connection but something holds you back?
I don’t know if it is fear that holds me back, preventing me from being so open about my desire for close connection to those I love. Sometimes it is out of pure exhaustion from a busy day that I just retreat into myself.
Being a highly sensitive soul I tend to over think everything. When things happen in life, I also tend to hold onto things long after others have forgotten about things (another perk of being a sensitive person).
In some way holding myself back is a way of protecting myself. If I was to open up on everything I am thinking, perhaps people will think I am just too over the top.
I also feel that people do hold themselves back based on past experience. I hold myself back now after so many attempts to build connection with people (in particular friendships) where I give my all only for it not to work out for some reason or another.
Whilst I am at peace about things not working out, over time it still hurts and you put up your own protective barrier to stop this from happening again.
I know I am not alone in wanting connection. I have seen people talking about it on social media constantly about wanting to have better relationships with those around them.
So how do you build a more connected and in tune life?
Here are some things I am going to be trying to help create a stronger bond with those I love.
It takes energy, time and attention to grow and nurture a relationship.
- More eye contact. Seriously looking at people instead of just a brief glance.
- Smile more.
- Pay it forward.
- Turn off devices and pay attention to people around me.
- Listen more and talk less.
- Call people more often instead of texting.
- Meditate to assist in practicing mindfulness
- Touch more. Think hugs and holding hands more.
Have you ever felt like this? Is there anything that prevents you from building a strong connection to those around you?
I would love to hear from you in the comments below.